Is That Me Yelling?: A Parent's Guide to Getting Your Kids to Cooperate Without Losing Your Cool
Rona Renner RN
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Being a parent is hard work! And when your child refuses to do even the little things—like picking up their toys, taking a bath, or getting in the car to go to school—it’s easy to become frustrated. But what if there was a gentle, effective way for you to improve your kid's behavior without losing your cool or raising your voice? In Is That Me Yelling? leading authority on parenting, Rona Renner outlines effective communication strategies that focus on your child’s unique temperament.
While most books on discipline are “one size fits all,” this book offers a tailored parenting approach. Inside, you will learn powerful mindfulness techniques based in cognitive behavioral theory (CBT) and temperament theory to help reduce conflict and foster cooperation, respect, and understanding in your family. You will also learn the real reasons behind your frustration, how your unique temperament, as well as your child’s, can contribute to you losing your temper, and how you can start feeling calm and connecting with your child in a positive way, right away.
As a parent, you are often under a great deal of stress. Between helping your child with their homework, running a household, and working, it’s only natural to feel overwhelmed at times. But that’s why you need real, practical solutions to help you communicate effectively and compassionately with your children in a way that will benefit you both. This book will show you how.
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stress. As Pat rushes around the house getting ready, her kids start to beg her to make Mickey Mouse pancakes for breakfast. She suddenly barks at them, “Who do you think I am, your private chef? Today’s a school day, so make your own breakfast!” As they moan and complain, Pat continues to yell,“Hurry up, because I can’t be late today. Don’t you know how important it is for me to get to work on time? You’re always asking me to buy you things, but if I don’t have a job there won’t be any money.
pathologize children for behaviors that are within the wide range of normal. A teacher might see a slow-to-warm-up child as sad, but this could just be the child’s normal approach to new people and new environments. If the teacher understands that a child who is shy needs to feel comfortable and safe, then an environment and attitude that is welcoming to a cautious child can be offered. Over time the teacher will be able to see if the child’s behavior is based on temperament or if an evaluation
first step is to give up unrealistic expectations. Goodness of Fit The way in which your child’s temperament meshes with yours might produce a good fit or a poor fit. When there is a poor fit, conflict and power struggles are more likely. And as the parent, it’s up to you to work toward a better fit. “Healthy functioning and development occurs when there is a goodness of fit between the capacities and characteristics of the individual and the demands and expectations of the environment”
or Disorders If you have a child with a developmental delay, you will need professional help to obtain services for your child and to assist you in understanding the meaning and implications of the delay. As with all of the special circumstances in this chapter, your child may experience a wide range of impairment. Your yelling and your ability to cope will be impacted by the severity of your child’s disability or trauma and the amount of support you receive. Children with disabilities have many
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